Frequently Asked Questions

I provide one-to-one communication guidance, therapeutic support, and practical strategies for parents who are co-parenting with an abusive, high-conflict, or controlling ex-partner.

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My approach combines:

• therapeutic, emotionally supportive space

• practical communication tools

• clear strategy and planning​

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So you’re not only thinking through what to do, you’re also supported to feel calmer, more confident, and less overwhelmed while doing it.

This is not just advice-giving. It’s supportive, structured, and grounded in both well-being and practical action.

Depending on what you’re facing, we might work on:

• identifying and documenting patterns of abusive or controlling behaviour

• processing difficult or triggering interactions

• building confidence and emotional steadiness

• drafting or refining messages and responses

• deciding what to respond to — and what to ignore

• setting boundaries and reducing conflict

• negotiating child arrangements in the context of abuse

• organising notes, timelines, and evidence

• preparing for CAFCASS involvement

• understanding and challenging CAFCASS reports

• developing communication strategies that protect your wellbeing

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The goal is to help you feel clearer, safer, and more in control — both emotionally and practically.

Therapeutic support is part of the intervention, but this is not formal clinical therapy or mental health treatment.

Sessions include space to:

• Talk through how situations are affecting you

• reduce overwhelm

• build confidence

• strengthen coping and communication skills

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However, this service is not a substitute for specialist trauma therapy, psychiatric care, or crisis mental health support.

If you need deeper therapeutic or clinical work alongside this support, I encourage you to work with a qualified therapist as well.

No.

I do not provide legal advice or legal representation.

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I can help you think through options, prepare questions, and organise communication, but I can’t tell you what legal decisions to make or act on your behalf in legal proceedings.

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For legal advice, you should speak with a solicitor or legal professional.

No — this is outside the scope of my service.

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I do not:

• complete risk assessments

• carry out safeguarding assessments

• undertake Section 7 (s.7) reports

• write reports for court

• provide expert witness statements

• make formal recommendations to courts or statutory services

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However, I can support you to:

• identify and document abusive behaviours clearly

• keep structured records and timelines

• organise your experiences in a factual way

• prepare your own notes and statements

• feel more confident speaking with professionals

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The focus is preparation and support, not formal assessment or reporting.

Yes.

 

While I don’t conduct assessments or write reports, I can help you feel informed and prepared.

 

This may include:

• understanding what CAFCASS meetings involve

• thinking through how to explain concerns calmly and clearly

• organising examples or evidence

• practising what you want to say

• reviewing reports and identifying areas you may wish to question or challenge

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The aim is to help you feel steady, prepared, and confident going into the process.

30 minutes is ideal for one focused issue or quick preparation.

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50 minutes gives us time to explore things more deeply — both practically and emotionally — and is often better for complex, ongoing, or high-conflict situations.

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If you feel overwhelmed or there’s a lot to unpack, the longer session usually feels more supportive.

Many parents start with:

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• the 20-minute Taster Session for quick clarity, or

• a 50-minute Deep Dive if they want space to properly talk everything through

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If you’re unsure, start small. You can always book more support later

Sessions are calm, supportive, and practical.

 

We usually:

• talk through what’s happening

• process any emotional impact

• clarify what you want to achieve

• develop wording or strategies

• agree clear next steps

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You leave with both emotional reassurance and a concrete plan.

Yes.

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Everything you share is treated confidentially, except where there is a legal or safeguarding obligation to share information (for example, if someone is at immediate risk of serious harm).

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If that situation ever arose, we would discuss it together.

This service is for parents who:

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• feel intimidated, controlled, or manipulated by an ex-partner

• wants to identify, document and highlight child safeguarding concerns

• experience high-conflict communication

• want both emotional support and practical tools

• need help planning what to say and how to respond

• want steady, knowledgeable guidance while navigating co-parenting challenges

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If you want calm, structured, therapeutic and practical support from someone in your corner, this is likely a good fit.

This may not be the right service if you need:

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• specialist trauma therapy or mental health treatment

• legal advice or court representation

• formal assessments or court reports

• crisis or emergency safeguarding intervention

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In those cases, a therapist, solicitor, or statutory service would be more appropriate.