Welcome to Its My Family
Expert-led support for parents across the UK navigating child Safeguarding Concerns, family court proceedings, and coparenting with an abusive coparent
Specialist Guidance you can Trust
Navigating safeguarding concerns within the family court system requires clarity, precision, and a strong understanding of how abuse is recognised and assessed. Many parents find themselves overwhelmed—particularly when their concerns are minimised or misunderstood by professionals.
At It’s My Family, we provide expert-led support grounded in safeguarding knowledge and real-world experience. We guide you in presenting concerns clearly, professionally, and effectively, with a strong focus on how information is received within CAFCASS and the family court.
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It's My Family Founder
This Podcast Discussion Provides an Overview of The Service
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Safeguarding Children
Identify coercive control and safeguarding risks affecting parent and child during contact.
Record and communicate concerns clearly to relevant professionals..
Reports and Documentation
Create professional safeguarding records, documenting abuse patterns and evidence clearly to support parents, protect children, and inform courts
Communication Tools
Guide safe communication with abusive co-parents, reducing conflict, misinterpretation, retraumatisation, and emotional harm during difficult interactions.
What We Do
At It’s My Family, we support protective parents to develop safe, effective communication with challenging co-parents and guide them in recording child abuse and safeguarding concerns. We help parents respond with confidence, maintain clear boundaries, and present patterns of abuse and safeguarding risks in a way that can be more clearly understood by professionals and the family court.
15
Minute Taster Session
A gentle first step
30
Minute Stratergy Session
Targeted support for one clear challenge
50
Minute Deep Dive
Space to slow down, think and plan properly
Support that Meets You Where You Are
We offer three levels of support to meet a wide range of needs, recognising that every situation involving child safeguarding and co-parenting with an abusive co-parent is unique.
Whether you want tailored one-to-one support, prefer to learn in your own time through resources, or wish to be part of a wider community, we are here.
We believe this information should be accessible to everyone. Our mission is to increase our reach, both online and in person, while building a strong community that reduces isolation, strengthens understanding, and increases collective capacity so more people feel informed, supported, and empowered to protect children
We believe that expert safeguarding and family court guidance should be accessible to all. Our mission is to extend our reach across the UK through high-quality online and in-person support, equipping parents with the knowledge, language, and tools needed to advocate effectively for their child’s safety.
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We are equally committed to building a trusted, informed community, reducing isolation, strengthening understanding of abuse and safeguarding, and increasing the capacity of parents to navigate complex systems with confidence.
5 Pillars of Communicaton for Protective Parents
The Five Pillars of Communication is a supportive framework used by It's My Family to help protective parents communicate calmly, clearly, and confidently in challenging situations.
It focuses on building emotional resilience, maintaining emotional stability, setting healthy boundaries, safeguarding children, and developing effective communication skills.
This framework supports parents to feel empowered, heard, and supported while keeping children’s safety and wellbeing at the centre of all child arrangement processes
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Emotional Regulation
Recognising emotional triggers that arise during hostile or manipulative communication
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Pausing to regulate emotions before responding to messages or conversations
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Using calming techniques (breathing, grounding, stepping away) to prevent escalation
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Maintaining emotional control to keep communication safe, brief, and child-focused
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Emotional Resiliance
Withstanding criticism, blame, or intimidation without reacting or internalising it
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Remaining emotionally steady despite repeated patterns of abuse or provocation
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Detaching from attempts to control, guilt, or shame through communication
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Recovering emotionally after difficult interactions and refocusing on wellbeing
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Communicaton Techniques
Keeping communication concise, factual, and limited to child-related matters
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Avoiding emotional explanations, over-justifications, or defensive responses
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Using neutral, non-reactive language to reduce opportunities for conflict
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Setting and maintaining clear boundaries around communication methods and tone
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Self Validation & Personal Growth
Validating your own experiences rather than seeking acknowledgement from others
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Trusting your parenting decisions and lived reality
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Letting go of the need to be understood or agreed with by the other parent
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Using each interaction as an opportunity to strengthen confidence and emotional growth
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Core Support Circle
Leaning on the right support - friends, family, or support groups for perspective
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Processing difficult interactions outside of co-parent
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Receiving affirmation and grounding from people who understand post serperation abusive
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Reducing isolation by maintaining strong, supportive connections
Educational Videos
The latest research and experts in the field of coercive and controlling behaviour inform the interventions used at Its My Family. Our focus is primarily on sharing resources that explain how children are affected by coercive and controlling behaviour, and how the risks remain post-separation.
Experts such as domestic abuse specialists highlight the emotional, psychological, and developmental consequences for children, including anxiety, low self-esteem, difficulty trusting others, and challenges in forming healthy relationships.
Through real-life examples and evidence-based advice, these videos aim to help you, the protective parent, understand and voice concerns about the coercive parent's impact to ensure your children are not placed at greater risk.
